A Life in Progress…

I am beyond frustrated! We have been trying to become foster parents for a while now. Our goal is to adopt a child or children out of the foster care system. I was initially excited about the organization that we choose to use to help us realize our dream. Now, I am frustrated by that organization. For those who don't know, my mother passed away in 1986. That is over 25 years ago and the organization is worried that I have "unresolved" grief because of her passing. They asked me to talk to a specific person about my grief and I did what they asked. Apparently that person was not good enough. I now have to go talk to someone else about my grief. Problem is that I do not have unresolved grief issues. I have moved on with my life. I guess the problem is that I haven't forgotten my mom and what she meant to me. Maybe that is what they want me to do. I am not sure. They also wanted me to go to someone and grieve the fact that I am unable to have children of my own. The pro...

As you know, Will & I have decided to become Foster parents. We started this process in late July - early August. It has been a long process for us too. The social workers have come to our home several times to talk about our separate childhoods, our relationship with our families, and our relationship with each other. Nothing is private. They ask about everything, and I mean EVERYTHING! Today we had a meeting with the social workers, per their request, to see what the next step was. I mean, I thought that they would be coming to talk about the home walk- thru and what to expect in the finalization process to becoming a licenced Foster Care home. Well, this meeting was not what I had expected. I found out that they want me to go to counseling for grief that, according to them, I have not dealt with. This is very frustrating to me. The grief that they feel I need to deal with is the fact that I can't have children of my own. Now, there has been NO medical diagnosis of this wh...